Do you say Yes when you mean No?
Celebrate the No! means celebrating yourself when you have the courage to say No and learning how to celebrate the Nos of others. Sound difficult? You bet it is.
The ability to say No — to yourself and to others — is one of the clearest expressions of a good boundary. If you struggle to set limits with yourself or others, you’re not alone. You may have been taught to be “nice” by always saying yes or putting other’s needs and wants before yours. Unfortunately, this kind of people-pleasing leaves you feeling used, depleted, and resentful.
Want to know where you stand with others, where they stand with you, and whether or not a relationship is salvageable?
Boundaries are the answer.
If boundaries are the problem . . .
- You avoid telling others what you think or how you feel because you don’t want to “rock the boat.”
- You accept behaviors that are painful or offensive because you’re afraid of losing a relationship.
- You set boundaries in relationships only to have them trampled on.
- You have frequent regrets about sharing too much private information with others.
- You test the limits or boundaries of others
- You have resentments that you just can’t seem to let go.