In just 27 days on Thursday, December 21 (at 10:28 CST to be exact), the Northern Hemisphere of the Earth will experience the longest night—and shortest day—of the year, also known as the Winter Solstice. The darkest day of the year perfectly describes the internal, and often invisible, experience of survivors of betrayal trauma after… Continue Reading…
Release Resentment in 5 Steps
As a betrayed partner, there is no way to avoid the very human feeling of resentment. The dictionary definition of resentment is: “bitter indignation at having been treated unfairly” It is certainly unfair to be the victim of chronic sexual betrayal through no fault of your own. The definition of resentment I prefer is “victim anger“—a… Continue Reading…
The Politician (It’s Not What You Think)
Politicians, political operatives, and pundits are masters of the communication tool I want to introduce you to today. So many of the questions I receive from partners of sex addicts about communication problems with the addict can easily be addressed and resolved by learning—and using—this simple skill I call The Politician. Here’s an overview of scenarios where The Politician is your secret… Continue Reading…