If you’ve been in a relationship that didn’t work out — and most of us have — you may feel like you failed. It’s common for people who go through divorce to feel as though they failed, or that their relationship was a failure. What if your relationship with the sex addict didn’t —or doesn’t — work… Continue Reading…
My Partner Ignored My Request—What Should I Do?
Happy Labor Day to my US and Canadian Friends! I was recently asked this question by a partner in my international online community (Partner’s Healing & Empowerment Online Forum): I made a request of my (sex addict) partner, and he never gave me answer. In the meantime, the requests I made have become requirements for… Continue Reading…
In(ter)dependence
On this Independence Day 2016, I’d like to take a moment to reflect on a high level relationship skill—Interdependence—and how it works in relationships impacted by intimate partner betrayal. Interdependence The mutual reliance between two or more groups. In relationships, interdependence is the degree to which members of the group are mutually dependent on the others. Interdependence… Continue Reading…
4 Reasons You Need to Understand Your Childhood Story
Once you’re past the initial shock of discovering your spouse has been chronically unfaithful, you may ask, “How did I get here? I want to understand how I ended up in this situation.” There is no one-size-fits-all answer to this question. And before delving into a partner’s trauma history pre-discovery or disclosure, it’s imperative to keep in mind that… Continue Reading…
An Invitation From Grace
On this eve of Father’s Day 2016, I want to deliver an invitation from grace. Merriam-Webster defines grace as: unmerited divine assistance given humans for their regeneration or sanctification Have you ever been the recipient of grace? Have you received blessings, advantage, or favor even when you didn’t “deserve” it? You can probably guess where I’m headed…. Continue Reading…
Sex @ 10 Interview with Rebecca Rosenblat
See my June 2 Rogers TV interview with Rebecca Rosenblat on her weekly show Sex @ 10. Rebecca is a Certified Relationship & Sexuality Therapist based in Canada. The topic was Boundaries After Betrayal. We discussed the “5 best kept secrets” about boundaries, the most common mistakes partners make when doing boundary work, and more. Access the show here…. Continue Reading…
Mindfulness for Triggers
Not that long ago, mindfulness was something exotic and strange. Now it’s emerged from obscurity into mainstream culture. Research has shown that mindfulness is effective for a variety of issues including ADHD, chronic pain, depression, and anxiety. I was first introduced to meditation and mindfulness in the late 80s when I took my first yoga class with… Continue Reading…