Are you struggling with triggers? If you are, you’re not alone. I’ve yet to meet a partner who didn’t experience triggers of some kind. Triggers can come out of nowhere and hit you when you least expect. What are triggers? A trigger is any experience of a person, place, or thing that reminds you of the betrayal, discovery,… Continue Reading…
Expectations & Contracts
Expectation: A strong belief that something will happen or be the case in the future Contract: A written or spoken agreement Knowing the difference between expectations and contracts is essential for good boundary work. In relationships, we create expectations based on our own thoughts, or on what we’ve assumed or made up about what others… Continue Reading…
Getting Your Needs Met
In my post owning your reality I talked about the step-by-step process of identifying and owning your reality. Your reality at any given moment is what you’re experiencing with your senses (including your own behaviors), what you think about what you’ve experienced, and the emotions you’re feeling. Why is this important? When a situation or relationship… Continue Reading…