Politicians, political operatives, and pundits are masters of the communication tool I want to introduce you to today. So many of the questions I receive from partners of sex addicts about communication problems with the addict can easily be addressed and resolved by learning—and using—this simple skill I call The Politician. Here’s an overview of scenarios where The Politician is your secret… Continue Reading…
Pause, Reflect, and Celebrate!
This past Monday I was in the gym where I’ve worked out every Monday morning for the past 5 years. You could tell without even looking at the calendar that it was January — the gym was more crowded than usual. The New Year is the season of resolutions, goals, and re-commitments. If you want to maximize the… Continue Reading…
Interview with Patricia Raskin | VoiceAmerica
Earlier today I was interviewed by Patricia Raskin of VoiceAmerica’s The Patricia Raskin Show. Patricia asked some great questions, and we talked about what every partner needs to know immediately following discovery or disclosure, whether partners are “co-sex addicts” or “co-addicts,” and the 5-Step Boundary Solution process I present in my book Moving Beyond Betrayal: The… Continue Reading…
Powerless—But Not Passive (6 Actions to Take)
Let’s face it—feeling powerless bites. There’s hardly anything as infuriating as the realization that you’re up against a problem or situation of some kind where there is absolutely nothing you can do to change it. Powerlessness will make you believe that there is nothing you can do, or worse, that you’re a victim. And when you see yourself as… Continue Reading…
Fear + Powerlessness = Detachment
This final day before the 2016 U.S. Presidential Election feels like the right time to talk about detachment. Looking back at the 80+ articles I’ve written on my blog, the word detachment has only been used once. That’s not nearly enough! For readers here in the U.S., you know—and you may be feeling it yourself—that… Continue Reading…
Did I “Fail” if My Relationship Ends?
If you’ve been in a relationship that didn’t work out — and most of us have — you may feel like you failed. It’s common for people who go through divorce to feel as though they failed, or that their relationship was a failure. What if your relationship with the sex addict didn’t —or doesn’t — work… Continue Reading…
My Partner Ignored My Request—What Should I Do?
Happy Labor Day to my US and Canadian Friends! I was recently asked this question by a partner in my international online community (Partner’s Healing & Empowerment Online Forum): I made a request of my (sex addict) partner, and he never gave me answer. In the meantime, the requests I made have become requirements for… Continue Reading…