I was honored to be interviewed by Jackie Pack and Jonathan Taylor on their Thanks for Sharing Podcast last week. Jackie and Jon welcome Vicki Tidwell Palmer, author of Moving Beyond Betrayal: The 5-Step Boundary Solution for Partners of Sex Addicts. Vicki, Jon and Jackie explore the nature and role of boundaries in recovery and… Continue Reading…
Strong in the Broken Places
There is a beautiful, ancient Japanese art where potters fix broken or cracked pottery by using lacquer dusted with gold, silver, or platinum. The process is called Kintsugi, which means “golden repair.” The intention behind Kintsugi is to draw attention to, and emphasize the breaks and imperfections of the piece rather than trying to cover… Continue Reading…
5 Barriers to Better Boundaries
Last month, one of the therapists in my Moving Beyond Betrayal Online Course for Clinicians & Coaches shared with me that one of her biggest challenges in supporting partners with their boundary work is not the actual boundary setting, but rather the follow-through after the boundary is set. Following through may mean doing what you said you would… Continue Reading…
When Do You Know Enough is Enough?
If you’re a partner of a sex addict, there is a very high likelihood that at some point you’ve wondered if you’ve tolerated the addict’s behavior for too long or put up with more than you should. Many partners berate themselves with internal messages like, “What’s wrong with me?” or “Why am I still with him?” If… Continue Reading…
The Politician (It’s Not What You Think)
Politicians, political operatives, and pundits are masters of the communication tool I want to introduce you to today. So many of the questions I receive from partners of sex addicts about communication problems with the addict can easily be addressed and resolved by learning—and using—this simple skill I call The Politician. Here’s an overview of scenarios where The Politician is your secret… Continue Reading…
Pause, Reflect, and Celebrate!
This past Monday I was in the gym where I’ve worked out every Monday morning for the past 5 years. You could tell without even looking at the calendar that it was January — the gym was more crowded than usual. The New Year is the season of resolutions, goals, and re-commitments. If you want to maximize the… Continue Reading…
Interview with Patricia Raskin | VoiceAmerica
Earlier today I was interviewed by Patricia Raskin of VoiceAmerica’s The Patricia Raskin Show. Patricia asked some great questions, and we talked about what every partner needs to know immediately following discovery or disclosure, whether partners are “co-sex addicts” or “co-addicts,” and the 5-Step Boundary Solution process I present in my book Moving Beyond Betrayal: The… Continue Reading…