Gaslighting is a term that comes from a 1944 movie called Gaslight. It’s a form of mental abuse where the victim is lied to—or the truth is otherwise distorted—for the purpose of causing the victim to doubt her own reality, memory, or perceptions. Gaslighting creates the fog of addiction, and perfectly describes what happens to betrayed… Continue Reading…
The Politician (It’s Not What You Think)
Politicians, political operatives, and pundits are masters of the communication tool I want to introduce you to today. So many of the questions I receive from partners of sex addicts about communication problems with the addict can easily be addressed and resolved by learning—and using—this simple skill I call The Politician. Here’s an overview of scenarios where The Politician is your secret… Continue Reading…
Interview with CaroltheCoach – Boundaries for Partners of Sex Addicts
This past Monday I had the honor of being interviewed on Carol Juergensen Sheets’ Blog Talk Radio Show (Strength-Hope-Recovery) talking about Boundaries for Partners of Sex Addicts. Lots of great information, including the 8 best practices for long-term success for couples impacted by sex addiction. Click here to listen to the whole show. _______________________ If you’d… Continue Reading…
Why You’ve Struggled to Know Your Reality
This post is Part 4 of a 6-week series celebrating the release of my upcoming book Moving Beyond Betrayal: The 5-Step Boundary Solution for Partners of Sex Addicts. Each week I’ll share an excerpt from the manuscript, along with one of the book’s endorsements. This week’s excerpt is taken from Chapter 4, entitled Boundary Solution… Continue Reading…
Myths & Misconceptions about Boundaries
This post is Part 3 of a 6-week series celebrating the release of my upcoming book Moving Beyond Betrayal: The 5-Step Boundary Solution for Partners of Sex Addicts. Each week I will share an excerpt from the manuscript, along with one of the book’s endorsements. This week’s excerpt is taken from Chapter 3, entitled First… Continue Reading…
How Partners are Impacted (By Sex Addiction)
This post is Part 2 of a 6-week series celebrating the release of my upcoming book Moving Beyond Betrayal: The 5-Step Boundary Solution for Partners of Sex Addicts. Each week I will share an excerpt from the manuscript, along with one of the book’s endorsements. This week’s excerpt is taken from Chapter 2, entitled Not All Forms… Continue Reading…
Taming Triggers Solution — Step 5
Taming Triggers Solution Step 5: Tame Triggers Where You Have the Power (This post is part 6 of an 8-part series on Taming Triggers Solution for partners of sex addicts and survivors of infidelity. If you haven’t already read the first five posts, I highly recommend you begin here with Step 1 and complete the first four steps before proceeding… Continue Reading…