After my last post, It All Starts with Self-Care, a blog follower wanted to know whether a one-time affair is the same as sex addiction, and what to do when you’re facing an affair — what are the steps to take both individually and as a couple? I get questions like these all the time…. Continue Reading…
Why You Should Avoid Staggered Disclosure
Staggered disclosure is an unfortunate—yet extremely common—experience for betrayed partners. Staggered disclosure is when a betrayed partner receives repeated and incomplete information about her spouse’s unfaithful actions or sexual acting out either directly from him (or her) or indirectly through intentional or unintentional discovery. For example, her spouse may tell her a story about a particular… Continue Reading…
4 Anchors for Dark Times
In just 27 days on Thursday, December 21 (at 10:28 CST to be exact), the Northern Hemisphere of the Earth will experience the longest night—and shortest day—of the year, also known as the Winter Solstice. The darkest day of the year perfectly describes the internal, and often invisible, experience of survivors of betrayal trauma after… Continue Reading…
Disclosure Self-Care for Partners [Part III]
[This article is Part 3 of a 3-part series for partners on how to practice self-care before, during, and after Formal Therapeutic Disclosure (FTD). If you haven’t read Parts 1 & 2, start here with Disclosure Self-Care for Partners [Part 1]] In Disclosure Self-Care for Partners Parts 1 & 2, we covered what you need to… Continue Reading…
Disclosure Self-Care for Partners [Part II]
[This article is Part 2 of a 3-part series for partners on how to practice self-care before, during, and after Formal Therapeutic Disclosure (FTD). If you haven’t read Part 1—Disclosure Self-Care for Partners [Part 1]—begin here.] In Disclosure Self-Care for Partners [Part 1], we covered what you need to know or do prior to the… Continue Reading…
Disclosure Self-Care for Partners [Part I]
Formal Therapeutic Disclosure (FTD) is a milestone for any couple who wants to rebuild their relationship after the devastation of chronic sexual betrayal. FTD—as experienced by partners of sex addicts—can be simultaneously terrifying, and greatly anticipated. On the one hand, partners look forward to getting information they need and deserve. On the other hand, they feel… Continue Reading…
What to Tell the Children?
Most parents—whether they’ve been impacted by addiction or not—struggle to talk to their children about sex. The infamous “birds and bees” talk is the source of endless jokes and secret discomfort for parents who fear they haven’t done enough to educate their children about their bodies or human sexuality. So when addicts and their partners want to… Continue Reading…