If you’ve been betrayed—especially more than once—chances are you’ve asked this exact question. I’ve heard it so many times I wonder why I haven’t written about it on the blog before now. It makes perfect sense that in the middle of pain, heartache, and disappointment a betrayed partner would think, If he loved me, he… Continue Reading…
Are You Codependent?
I love when blog readers and subscribers ask me to write on a topic that’s of interest to them. One blog subscriber recently asked me to talk about codependency. She was feeling confused about codependency because on the one hand she relates to the concept, but other partners she knows say they don’t. She had… Continue Reading…
Welcome the New Year in 7 Simple Steps
I don’t know about you, but I’m ready to say good-bye to 2017! In just three days we will close the door on 2017 and a new door—2018—will open. Although most of us tend to resist change, there are times when we welcome the end of a season, a job, a relationship, or situation. Change… Continue Reading…
When Battling Infidelity, Choose a Worthy Opponent
I love this quote: Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle. No one is sure of the original author, but it’s been attributed to Philo of Alexandria, Plato, Ian MacLaren, and John Watson. Nonetheless, it’s a powerful message—especially for survivors of chronic infidelity or a spouse’s addiction. Betrayed partners fight a… Continue Reading…
4 Truths That Unite Couples After Infidelity
Wednesday night I had the privilege of attending a talk by Dan Rather about his most recent book, What Unites Us: Reflections on Patriotism. After a storied career spanning more than six decades, interviewing every president since Eisenhower, and anchoring the CBS Evening News for 24 years, it was encouraging to hear him say: If… Continue Reading…
Why Are You Still With HIM?
If your spouse has been chronically unfaithful, and you’ve disclosed it to family or friends, you’ve probably been asked this question. You likely had one of two internal responses: shame or shame + confusion. Shame because the question implies that there must be something wrong with YOU. The person posing the question may think that if… Continue Reading…
Latest Podcast Interview: Thanks for Sharing Episode #60
I was honored to be interviewed by Jackie Pack and Jonathan Taylor on their Thanks for Sharing Podcast last week. Jackie and Jon welcome Vicki Tidwell Palmer, author of Moving Beyond Betrayal: The 5-Step Boundary Solution for Partners of Sex Addicts. Vicki, Jon and Jackie explore the nature and role of boundaries in recovery and… Continue Reading…