If you’re a partner of a sex addict, there is a very high likelihood that at some point you’ve wondered if you’ve tolerated the addict’s behavior for too long or put up with more than you should. Many partners berate themselves with internal messages like, “What’s wrong with me?” or “Why am I still with him?” If… Continue Reading…
7 Key Components of a “Therapeutic” Separation Agreement
(Please note: This article is intended for informational purposes only and should not be used as the primary or only source of guidance for instituting a period of therapeutic separation. Due to the complexity and variety of each individual case, consultation with a mental health treatment professional experienced in therapeutic separation is strongly recommended.) What is therapeutic separation? Therapeutic separation… Continue Reading…
Did I “Fail” if My Relationship Ends?
If you’ve been in a relationship that didn’t work out — and most of us have — you may feel like you failed. It’s common for people who go through divorce to feel as though they failed, or that their relationship was a failure. What if your relationship with the sex addict didn’t —or doesn’t — work… Continue Reading…
Is My Partner Gay . . . or Bi-Sexual?
Before I get to the answer to this important (and confusing) issue, I want to share my excitement with you that in just 3 days from now, my new confidential, online Community for partners will officially launch! Partners from 8 states in the U.S. and one international member have already joined.* The Partner’s Healing &… Continue Reading…
Interview with CaroltheCoach – Boundaries for Partners of Sex Addicts
This past Monday I had the honor of being interviewed on Carol Juergensen Sheets’ Blog Talk Radio Show (Strength-Hope-Recovery) talking about Boundaries for Partners of Sex Addicts. Lots of great information, including the 8 best practices for long-term success for couples impacted by sex addiction. Click here to listen to the whole show. _______________________ If you’d… Continue Reading…
My “Failure” and Why You Should Increase Your NOs
It’s funny about failure stories. Most of us try to hide our failures, but they’re the stories everyone most likes to hear. What I love most about failure stories is that they’re almost always about learning or redemption. It’s a mistake to think of events or circumstances that don’t go our way as failures. For example, when someone… Continue Reading…
An Invitation From Grace
On this eve of Father’s Day 2016, I want to deliver an invitation from grace. Merriam-Webster defines grace as: unmerited divine assistance given humans for their regeneration or sanctification Have you ever been the recipient of grace? Have you received blessings, advantage, or favor even when you didn’t “deserve” it? You can probably guess where I’m headed…. Continue Reading…