This past Monday I had the honor of being interviewed on Carol Juergensen Sheets’ Blog Talk Radio Show (Strength-Hope-Recovery) talking about Boundaries for Partners of Sex Addicts. Lots of great information, including the 8 best practices for long-term success for couples impacted by sex addiction. Click here to listen to the whole show. _______________________ If you’d… Continue Reading…
In(ter)dependence
On this Independence Day 2016, I’d like to take a moment to reflect on a high level relationship skill—Interdependence—and how it works in relationships impacted by intimate partner betrayal. Interdependence The mutual reliance between two or more groups. In relationships, interdependence is the degree to which members of the group are mutually dependent on the others. Interdependence… Continue Reading…
My “Failure” and Why You Should Increase Your NOs
It’s funny about failure stories. Most of us try to hide our failures, but they’re the stories everyone most likes to hear. What I love most about failure stories is that they’re almost always about learning or redemption. It’s a mistake to think of events or circumstances that don’t go our way as failures. For example, when someone… Continue Reading…
Is it Secret . . . or Private? (HuffPost Wellness)
In the past week, the topic of what’s secret versus what’s private has come up in my office on three separate occasions, so I thought it was time to share my thoughts on the distinction between the two. Most people wonder from time to time whether information they’re keeping to themselves is secret or private, and addicts in… Continue Reading…
Change Happens
If you find yourself despairing—wondering if things will ever change, here’s a story of transformation . . . and hope. The photo to the left tells a beautiful tale that’s not apparent without the backstory. This unassuming building is a new restaurant—The Pit Room Handcrafted Barbecue—still under construction directly across the street from my office building… Continue Reading…
5 ‘Best Kept Secrets’ about Boundaries
It’s been an incredible week for the launch of my upcoming book Moving Beyond Betrayal: The 5-Step Boundary Solution for Partners of Sex Addicts on May 24. Many thanks to everyone who has already pre-ordered! If you haven’t already, please take advantage of the pre-order bonuses I’m offering for all purchases of the print version of MBB before… Continue Reading…
Forgiveness
This post is Part 6 of a 6-week series celebrating the release of my upcoming book Moving Beyond Betrayal: The 5-Step Boundary Solution for Partners of Sex Addicts. Each week I’ve shared an excerpt from the manuscript, along with one of the book’s endorsements. This last selection is from Chapter 11, entitled Partners Beyond Betrayal: Trust, Gratitude, and… Continue Reading…