One of the members of my Partner’s Healing & Empowerment Online Community recently asked a great question that I think many partners would like to know the answer to, so I decided to answer—and expand on the topic—here on the blog. The essence of the question was: When doing a weekly couples recovery check-in, what sobriety date… Continue Reading…
Non-negotiable Boundaries
When you begin the process of identifying, creating, and maintaining boundaries, you’ll inevitably be introduced to the concept of non-negotiable boundaries. What is a “non-negotiable” boundary? By definition, a non-negotiable boundary is a boundary that is not open to discussion or modification. Another way to think of non-negotiable boundaries are that they’re something you must have… Continue Reading…
Doesn’t He Have to Want It [Recovery] for Himself?
As a partner, you want the sex addict in your life to want to change . . . . from the inside out. Changing from the inside out means he wants to get better for himself — not because you, or anyone else, are breathing down his neck. You’d like to know that he would commit… Continue Reading…
Basics of First-Year Sex Addiction Recovery
It’s important for partners to have a basic understanding of the recovery process. I sometimes find that without this information partners tend to expect or ask either too little or too much from the sex addict. As I discussed in my post what sets sex addiction apart, sex addiction recovery is different than most other addictions where abstaining from… Continue Reading…