If you're like most partners impacted by betrayal you want to know...
- Can my relationship survive chronic betrayal or addiction? Is there hope?
- Am I asking for too much from my spouse? Am I crazy for thinking there’s something wrong with his (or her) behavior?
- Is it my fault that he (or she) was unfaithful?
- Is it okay for me to ask for trust-building, relationship-restoring actions from my spouse?
- How long do I have to wait to find out if my relationship is going to make it?
You’re not crazy.
Your relationship can survive.
It’s not your fault.
Survive & Thrive Blueprint
Five key capabilities you must learn and cultivate to cross the deep divide between surviving and thriving.
1. Exquisite self-care
The practice of exquisite self-care—turning your attention toward yourself and away from over-focusing on the person who betrayed you.
2. Specialized Information
Expert, specialized information about what you can reasonably expect from your spouse, your rights as a partner, formal therapeutic disclosure, and more.
3. Individualized Guidance
Individualized support and guidance for your unique situation and circumstances.
4. Communities of Support
How to connect with healthy, supportive, and validating communities of partners traveling the same courageous journey you're on.
Knowing how to discover and voice your needs and wants, and how identify, create, and maintain healthy and effective boundaries.
Navigating through betrayal trauma is a nightmare. This information is a sound guide on how to move forward and make decisions out of faith not fear. —J
Unfortunately, partners sometimes make the mistake of believing that when their spouse stops engaging in compulsive, relationship-destroying behaviors, all their problems will be solved.
Or, they make the mistake of asking for either too much or too little from the person who betrayed them — slowing down the process of their own healing and restoring their relationship.
And because of the stigma and shame of sexual betrayal and addiction, betrayed partners are extremely isolated.
You may (understandably) have chosen not to share your painful reality with anyone — even your closest friends and family members.
Most partners don't, for very good reasons.
This course is ideal for partners who:
Have recently learned of a spouse’s infidelity or addiction
You’ve recently become aware of your spouse’s betrayal and you’re figuring out your next steps.
Are in the early stages of discovery or disclosure
You are in the early stages of discovery or disclosure of chronic sexual betrayal, or you've experienced multiple discoveries or disclosures over years — even decades — without any meaningful healing or relationship restoration.
Are feeling lost, confused, and wonder if there is hope for your relationship or a way out.
Feel like you've tried everything but nothing has worked
Maybe you’ve educated yourself and your spouse, tried to implement changes — or even been to couple’s therapy and nothing has worked.
Have good information, but want to learn more
Maybe you feel like you have some good information and tools in your toolbox, but want to learn more.
You may feel powerless to do anything toward your own healing, or you are feeling helpless and defeated about your situation.
Are ready to take action
You want to take action now toward your own healing and empowerment.
The Survive and Thrive Blueprint gives you a roadmap to navigate the challenging, painful — and achievable — journey from trauma to trust.
I'm Vicki Tidwell Palmer, best-selling author of Moving Beyond Betrayal: The 5-Step Boundary Solution for Partners of Sex Addicts, and host of the weekly podcast, Beyond Bitchy: Mastering the Art of Boundaries (2018-2021).
I'm a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner.
I love sharing my knowledge and expertise — as well as the experience and hard-won wisdom accumulated from 30+ years of my own healing and recovery journey — with people who are ready to learn, grow, and transform their lives.
My mission is to help you move beyond betrayal so that you can experience the clarity and peace you deserve.
Vicki understands what we are going through as partners, and gives clear guidance on how to handle and cope. —JO
What’s Included in the S&T Blueprint Course:
5 Recorded Video Sessions
Each session includes a 75-80 minute class on each of the 5 essentials crucial to your healing as a partner. Sessions include answers to audience questions, action steps and resources.
Suggested Action Items
Each class includes a list of recommended action items. Action items highlight your progress, and help you grow in knowledge, skills, and capabilities.
Resource topics include: self-care for partners, boundary worksheets, and systems, guidelines and stages of healing for partners.
You get permanent, lifetime access to all session replays and downloadable resources. Listen as many times as you want and whenever it is convenient for you!
Access your sessions from anywhere, anytime.
Use your phone, tablet or computer at anytime and watch as many times as you'd like. Sessions are released to you weekly beginning with Session 1, as soon as you sign up!
You’ll also receive these bonus resources:
Suggested Recovery Check-In Items for Sex Addicts & Partners
Stages of Healing for Partners of Sex Addicts
How to Take a Relational Time-Out in Six Steps
The 5-Step Boundary Solution Clarifier
Talking Format + Request
What’s included in the sessions:
Self-care is truly the foundation for every partner's healing. This 80-minute session will give you a framework for practicing the best self-care you can, along with action items to complete that will help you feel better, sooner.
Specialized Information for Partners
To survive chronic sexual betrayal, you must be highly informed with specialized information gathered from trusted resources and experts in order to protect yourself, heal, and restore your relationship — if you choose to stay. This 80-minute session covers two important areas of specialized information: collaborative transparency and Formal Therapeutic Disclosure.
Session 3 is about individualized guidance and why partners need it. Just as you would go to a cardiologist for a heart condition—rather than to your general practitioner—you will save time, valuable resources, and heartache by getting expert information from a betrayal trauma specialist. This 75-minute session covers why individualized guidance is crucial for partners moving beyond betrayal, six recommended sources of expert information, and how to get the most from these sources.
Session 4 is about how communities of support enhance a partner’s healing process and progress. Communities of support are vital to a partner's healing, growth, and empowerment. This 75-minute session covers the five primary types of communities: how they work, their strengths, limitations, and how to get the most from participating in each one.
Although boundaries are the last component of the S&T Blueprint, learning good boundary work is one of the most crucial skills you can learn as a betrayed partner. This 80-minute session will introduce you to the concept of boundaries, as well a the 5-Step Boundary Solution process I presented in my book, Moving Beyond Betrayal.
Inside this course, you’ll learn the answers to these questions & more:
What are your rights as a betrayed partner?
What is Formal Therapeutic Disclosure and how does it work?
Will disclosure help you decide whether or not you want to stay in your relationship?
What are the 4 types of self-care? And how do you tend to each one?
How do you create agreements with an unfaithful spouse for more tranparency and accountability?
Should you ask your partner to take a polygraph test?
What is sex addiction and what are tools for dealing with it in an intimate relationship?
How do you find a qualified therapist or coach who is trained to work with betrayed partners?
What are boundaries, why are they necessary and how do you start creating your own?
If we were to work together — one-on-one — only for these 5 sessions, your cost would be more than $2000.
But since I want partners everywhere to have access to the specialized information and expert guidance that I know can make the difference between staying stuck for years, even decades, or moving into clarity, empowerment, and connection —and right now, this course only costs $197 $97.
LIMITED TIME BONUS
If you take advantage of this offer now, you will also receive immediate access to these 2 online presentations that contain vital information for betrayed Partners:
- VIDEO PRESENTATION: Formal Therapeutic Disclosure Basics for Betrayed Partners
- In this 110-Minute Prerecored Presentation with Vicki, you will learn the fundamentals of a sound Formal Therapeutic Disclosure (“FTD”) process.
- VIDEO PRESENTATION: The Role of Polygraph in Relationships Impacted by Chronic Sexual Betrayal
- In this 85-Minute Prerecored Presentation with Vicki and Stephen Cabler (Licensed Polygraph Examiner), you will learn everything you need to know about the use of polygraph for relationships impacted by chronic sexual betrayal—specialized information not available in one place anywhere else.
PLUS, for a limited time, you will also receive immediate and lifetime access to these BONUS Presentations:
QUESTIONS BEFORE YOU START?
What happens after I sign up?
You will receive immediate access to:
- Session 1: Self-Care Fundamentals
- Polygraph Basics presentation
- Formal Therapeutic Disclosure presentation
Subsequent sessions are released to you weekly.
How long do I have access?
You have unlimited lifetime access to all materials and resources in the Survive & Thrive Blueprint, the Polygraph Basics Presentation and the Formal Therapeutic Disclosure Presentation. Access and watch when convenient for you, as many times as you like!
How do I access the course and presentations?
When you purchase Survive & Thrive Blueprint you will create a member account with a username and password. Be sure to save your log in information in a secure place.
You can log in using your log in credentials at any time using this link:
You have unlimited, lifetime access to Survive & Thrive Blueprint, Polygraph Basics Presentation, and the Formal Therapeutic Disclosure Presentation.
What if this isn't for me?
Although this information is truly invaluable for partners impacted by chronic betrayal, we understand it isn't for everyone.
If the course isn't for you, we will send you a full refund if you request one in writing within fourteen (14) days of purchase. See Terms of Purchase for details.
Your work helped me decide what I needed to stay in my marriage and helped me make a request of my husband to get help. Ultimately, it saved my marriage! —Anonymous