Over the years, many betrayed partners have told me they need to know their spouse’s thoughts or fantasies about other people in order to heal or stay in their relationship. Some partners believed that they had a right to know their spouse’s every thought or fantasy. Several said that if their spouse had sexual thoughts… Continue Reading…
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Why You Should Avoid Staggered Disclosure
Staggered disclosure is an unfortunate—yet extremely common—experience for betrayed partners. Staggered disclosure is when a betrayed partner receives repeated and incomplete information about her spouse’s unfaithful actions or sexual acting out either directly from him (or her) or indirectly through intentional or unintentional discovery. For example, her spouse may tell her a story about a particular… Continue Reading…
Your Survive & Thrive Blueprint for Healing
A wise and thoughtful betrayed partner once asked me: What are the most important things betrayed partners need to do to heal? What a great question. Surviving and eventually thriving (yes, it is absolutely possible!) after chronic sexual betrayal is a complicated and harrowing journey. There are no simple, cookie-cutter, one-size-fits-all answers for every partner…. Continue Reading…
Survive & Thrive Online Membership Community for Betrayed Partners
Survive & Thrive Membership Community Specialized Guidance, Support & Connection for Betrayed Partners Confidential Online Community + Access to Trauma & Addiction Specialist SIGN UP TODAY! If you’re dealing with the impact of the discovery of chronic sexual betrayal, you’re probably wondering: Can my relationship survive chronic betrayal or addiction? Will I ever trust him… Continue Reading…
Planning In-House Separation
Periods of separation in long-term relationships can be healing, illuminating, and even necessary—not just in relationships impacted by chronic sexual betrayal. In my article 7 Key Components of a “Therapeutic” Separation Agreement, I outlined the fundamentals of a therapeutic separation agreement for couples who are living in two separate residences. However, there are times when… Continue Reading…
The ONE Belief Every Betrayed Partner Must Embrace
In early January, I was honored to be the keynote speaker for the first annual Infidelity Survivors Anonymous Retreat here in Texas. During the Q&A Session on Saturday afternoon, one of the participants wanted to explore why she still gets triggered sometimes—even after many years of solid self-care, relationship healing, and boundary work. Like most… Continue Reading…
Moving Beyond Betrayal Partner’s Boundaries Online Course
Moving Beyond BetrayalPartner’s Boundaries Online Course SIGN ME UP! Betrayed Partners and survivors of chronic infidelity experience dire consequences as a result of intimate partner betrayal. As a betrayed partner you want to know: Can a relationship survive chronic betrayal or addiction? How can I know whether or not my spouse is still lying about… Continue Reading…