Moving Beyond Betrayal
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The most thorough resource for partners. Navigating through betrayal trauma is a nightmare. This book is a sound guide on how to move forward making decisions out of faith not fear. It details how to set boundaries for the partner to regain a sense of safety in a difficult situation. -Jessie
THIS BOOK SAVED MY MARRIAGE
I ordered this book after discovering that my husband had an affair. This book helped me decide what I needed to stay in my marriage and helped me make a request of my husband to get help. Ultimately, it saved my marriage!
It has also help me set simple boundaries (or make requests) of friends and family so that my relationships are more comfortable and functional. It seems the process that this book lays out makes it clear and simple! - Anonymous
THE 5-STEP BOUNDARY SOLUTION WORKS
Vicki is awesome! I attended a "Reclaiming Wholeness" Family of Origin intensive workshop a few months ago, and having this book to reflect back on certain things learned from the workshop has been very helpful. -Creative Mommy
This is one of the best self help books I have ever read! Not only does it validate victims of betrayal, but it provides the tools needed to move forward-whether one chooses to leave the relationship, or rebuild. I will use the lessons that I learned from this book for the rest of my life in ALL relationships. This book truly teaches one how to have self respect through setting healthy and realistic boundaries. It did more for me than therapy. - KL
One of the most important skills for self protection and healing from the trauma of relationship betrayal is to have a clear understanding of how and when to set boundaries. This book is the best resource I have found for clarifying this challenging situation and providing essential guidance on making difficult choices and taking effective action to advance the healing process. I give it my highest recommendation! - Marc
Establish boundaries and gain control over your options and your life. Critical reading for partners of sex addicts, or any dysfunctional relationship. -Melanie
Amazing book! Well written. It is my "go"to" book when I need help with boundary work. - Debbie
Superb. We use this book in our practice all the time. Highly recommended. - Sam
This is a must read for anyone who's gone through the trauma of discovery. It is concise, pragmatic, non-judgmental and thankfully, for me anyway, free of the stories of other partners that only re-traumatize and distract me. I'm reading it 3 years after discovery and wish I had it as a resource years ago, though I've found it very helpful even at this stage. I don't believe it is guiding readers to stay or go, but only a stand up for themselves in the healthiest way possible given the situation they're in. -KC
This book is a must read for a partner of a sex addict. It was a life changing book. The author is quite impressive in her knowledge of the suffering of the partner and what she/he can do to improve their situation whether it's staying or leaving! I highly recommend this book! - Harmony
As a student I was asked to look for a topic to discuss in a class I was taking. I picked this book and was really impressed with how the author addresses self care, boundaries and recovery for those who have been devastated by sexual betrayal. Most of us can relate to some kind of cheating experience. Learning to love again, trust ourselves and develop guilt free boundaries is a gift we give our worthy selves.
Very well written making all the information easy to follow. The 5 step boundary solution applies to any codependent, addict or partner of an addict. Not just for the partners of addicts: I was able to learn and practice new behaviors regarding boundaries, asking for for what I want, and coping with trauma. - CM
As a therapist who works with people who are dealing with sex addiction, I have found this to be a wonderful resource. However, it's so good for boundaries, it's not only good for sex addiction, but for boundaries in general. I love how balanced it is, and I love that it focuses on helping people who have been hurt. -Dr. Michael Salas
Vicki Tidwell is a warm, supportive, wise and knowledgeable presence. Readers will find solace and practical advice that works. The author's expertise in setting boundaries is particularly important in such situations. - Lisa
Extremely helpful guidance of healthy boundaries and establishing deal breakers one can stick to. Although my challenge was not concerning sex addiction, this book raised awareness of my less than healthy boundaries with partners from my past and even with friendships and family members. I felt empowered from the read with a smart skill set that will empower all relationships with integrity to self and other.
Interviews with Vicki about Moving Beyond Betrayal
Partners of sex addicts experience dire consequences as a result of being in a relationship with someone suffering from compulsive sexual behavior.
Their emotional well-being requires developing new skill sets for self-care and self-protection as they confront the difficult and painful process of discovery, disclosure, and beyond.
In other words—they need boundaries.
Moving Beyond Betrayal is the first book in the marketplace specifically for partners affected by addictive behavior that addresses — in detail — how to identify, create, and maintain boundaries as a vital component of self-care and an indispensable tool for healing and growth.
Moving Beyond Betrayal guides partners to define the current problem(s):
- Identify needs that aren't being met
- Find where they have the power to effect change
- Take action
- Evaluate the results to determine if their goal has been accomplished
All aspects of effective boundary work are covered, including what to do when boundaries are violated.
Through working the 5-Step Boundary Solution partners will:
- Gain clarity
- Reduce the chaos inherent in relationships impacted by sex addiction
- Feel more empowered and in control of their lives
- Discover whether or not their relationship with the addict is salvageable