Survive & Thrive Membership Community

Specialized Support & Connection for Betrayed Partners

Confidential Online Community + Personalized Guidance from a Trauma and Addiction Specialist

If you're dealing with the impact of the discovery of chronic sexual betrayal, you’re probably wondering:

Can my relationship survive chronic betrayal or addiction?
Will I ever trust—him, her, anyone—again?
Am I crazy for thinking there’s something wrong with his (or her) behavior?
Where can I get the right help and support I need with all the shame, stigma, and misinformation about chronic infidelity and sex addiction?
Is it my fault that he (or she) was unfaithful?
Is it okay for me to ask for trust-building, relationship-restoring actions from my spouse?
How long do I have to wait to find out if my relationship can be saved?

If you've asked yourself any—or most—of these questions, here's what I want you to know:

Having worked with betrayed partners for more than a decade, I know that with information, guidance, and a community of support, partners can survive—and even thrive—after the devastating discovery of sex addiction or long-term, chronic betrayal.

Your relationship can survive. You can trust again. You're not crazy. It's not your fault.

And yes, you have a right to ask your unfaithful spouse for specific actions that will rebuild trust and restore your relationship.

About Vicki (Survive & Thrive Membership Community Host)

I'm Vicki Tidwell Palmer, author of Moving Beyond Betrayal: The 5-Step Boundary Solution for Partners of Sex Addicts, and host of a weekly podcast, Beyond Bitchy: Mastering the Art of Boundaries.

I'm a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT), and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner.

I love sharing my knowledge and expertise — as well as the experience and wisdom accumulated from 31+ years of my own healing and recovery journey — with people who are ready to learn, grow, and transform their lives.

My mission is to help you move beyond betrayal into a life of clarity, power, and connection.

If you want to cross what may feel like a very deep divide between surviving and thriving, you must learn and cultivate five key capabilities—the Survive & Thrive Blueprint:

Learn how to practice exquisite self-care—turning your attention toward yourself and away from over-focusing on the person who betrayed you.

Have expert, specialized information about addiction recovery, your rights as a partner, formal therapeutic disclosure, and more.

Individualized support and guidance—for your unique situation and circumstances—from a community of partners and a trauma, addiction, and betrayal expert.

Share connection with a supportive and validating community of partners traveling the same courageous journey you're on.

Learn how to identify and voice your needs and wants, and how identify, create, and maintain healthy and effective boundaries.

Unfortunately, partners sometimes make the mistake of believing that when their spouse stops engaging in compulsive, relationship-destroying behaviors, all their problems will be solved.

Or, they make the mistake of asking for either too much or too little from the person who betrayed them—slowing down the process of healing and restoring their relationship.  

And because of the stigma and shame of sexual betrayal and addiction, betrayed partners are extremely isolated.

You may (understandably) have chosen not to share your painful reality with anyone—even your closest friends and family members.

Most partners don't, for very good reasons.

Community membership is ideal for partners who:

Are in the early stages of discovery or disclosure of chronic sexual betrayal, or who are further along in their healing process but want a place to connect, deepen their knowledge, and support other partners.
May have limited—or no—local access to a supportive community or a professional who is knowledgable and experienced in working with intimate partner betrayal and sex addiction.
Want expert guidance and information about how to cope after intimate partner betrayal.
Want to connect with other partners dealing with similar issues.
Want to take action toward their own healing and empowerment.