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Is There Hope After Betrayal?

June 14, 2018

Hope

Betrayed partners often want to know whether there is hope after long-term sexual betrayal. Hope is defined as: a feeling of expectation and desire for a certain thing to happen. It’s interesting to note that the archaic definition of hope is:  a feeling of trust. While all betrayed partners might not agree about what they expect… Continue Reading…

Sharing Thoughts & Fantasies

June 6, 2018

Thoughts

Over the years, many betrayed partners have told me they need to know their spouse’s thoughts or fantasies about other people in order to heal or stay in their relationship. Some partners believed that they had a right to know their spouse’s every thought or fantasy. Several said that if their spouse had sexual thoughts… Continue Reading…

Why You Should Avoid Staggered Disclosure

May 31, 2018

Staggered Disclosure

Staggered disclosure is an unfortunate—yet extremely common—experience for betrayed partners. Staggered disclosure is when a betrayed partner receives repeated and incomplete information about her spouse’s unfaithful actions or sexual acting out either directly from him (or her) or indirectly through intentional or unintentional discovery. For example, her spouse may tell her a story about a particular… Continue Reading…

Your Survive & Thrive Blueprint for Healing

May 22, 2018

Survive & Thrive

A wise and thoughtful betrayed partner once asked me: What are the most important things betrayed partners need to do to heal? What a great question. Surviving and eventually thriving (yes, it is absolutely possible!) after chronic sexual betrayal is a complicated and harrowing journey. There are no simple, cookie-cutter, one-size-fits-all answers for every partner…. Continue Reading…

Reject Rejection

May 4, 2018

Rejection

I don’t believe in rejection. Don’t get my wrong, I’ve experienced what most people think of as “rejection.” Not getting the job, the opportunity, or the guy. In fact, my high school sweetheart unceremoniously ended our 6-year relationship—and our engagement—over the phone. Ouch. But I don’t see it as a rejection. Rejection is defined as:… Continue Reading…

5 Spiritual Lessons From Waze

April 19, 2018

Waze Spiritual Lessons

Sometimes spiritual lessons come from the most unexpected places. I’ve been using the navigation app Waze for a couple of years now. If you’re not familiar with Waze, it’s “the world’s largest community-based traffic and navigation app,” according to its website. The more I use Waze, the more I see the many spiritual and recovery lessons… Continue Reading…

Being Right & Being Happy

April 11, 2018

Happy or right

Has anyone ever asked you, Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy?” The first time I heard this question—many years ago—I have to admit I didn’t get it. I thought, can’t you be both right and happy? As it turns out, not always. If you have a habit of… Continue Reading…

3 Reasons NOT to Share Consequences

April 4, 2018

Boundaries consequences betrayed partner

Betrayed partners often want to know whether they should share with their spouse the consequence they plan to follow through with when they set a boundary. When thinking about responses to boundary problems or violations, it’s important to remember that boundaries are not something you impose on another person. However, you can create boundaries around… Continue Reading…

Revisiting Your Rights as a Betrayed Partner

March 21, 2018

Right to say no

Back in September of 2014 I wrote A Partner’s Bill of Rights, an article that includes a list of rights for betrayed partners, also available in my book, Moving Beyond Betrayal. I was reminded this past Tuesday night during a Live Q&A Call for the launch of Taming Triggers Solution Online Course, that from time to time it… Continue Reading…

A Guide to Betrayed Partner Impact Statements

March 15, 2018

impact statement

One of the partners in my Moving Beyond Betrayal Boundaries Course recently asked my opinion about betrayed partners writing an impact statement. If you’re not familiar with impact statements, they are a written document drafted by a betrayed partner—with the guidance and support of her or his therapist—that is eventually read to the unfaithful spouse, preferably in… Continue Reading…

Planning In-House Separation

March 8, 2018

In house separation

Periods of separation in long-term relationships can be healing, illuminating, and even necessary—not just in relationships impacted by chronic sexual betrayal. In my article 7 Key Components of a “Therapeutic” Separation Agreement, I outlined the fundamentals of a therapeutic separation agreement for couples who are living in two separate residences. However, there are times when… Continue Reading…

Turning Complaints Into Requests

February 23, 2018

Complaints Request Betrayed Partner

Do you complain or criticize your spouse, kids, family members, friends, or others hoping that they’ll change because you pointed out what you don’t like about their behavior? As illogical as it sounds, that’s what most of us do. In an effort to get our loved ones, family, and friends to change, we regularly use… Continue Reading…

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Victoria is the author of the upcoming Personal Boundaries for Dummies (Spring 2024), Founder of The Radiant Threefold Path, host of the Radiant Threefold Path Podcast and Beyond Bitchy Podcast: Mastering the Art of Boundaries, and best-selling author of Moving Beyond Betrayal,  read more…

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